Ready For Love?

The level of fear that exists when it comes to love has often dazzled me. It used to surprises me since everybody seemed to be looking for it. But something always seemed off. It felt that while we are searching for it we are avoiding it by all costs. The potential of love scares us so tremendously that we do anything to escape from it.

One of my most favorite books is “A Course In Miracles”. It’s depth and insight is beyond words. I recently read this passage:


“The ego is certain that love is dangerous, and this is its central teaching. It never puts it this way; on the contrary, everyone who believes that the ego is salvation seems to be intensely engaged in the search for love. Yet the ego, though encouraging the search for love very actively, makes one proviso; do not find it. It dictates, then, can be summed up simply as: “Seek and do not find.” This is the one promise the ego holds out to you. And the one promise it will keep. For the ego pursues its goal with fanatic insistence, and its judgment, though severely impaired, is completely consistent.

The search the ego undertakes is therefore bound to be defeated. And since it also teaches that it is your identification, its guidance leads you to a journey, which must end in perceived self-defeat. For the ego cannot love, and in its frantic search for love it is seeking what it is afraid to find. The search is inevitable because the ego is part of your mind, and because of its source the ego is not wholly split off, or it could not be believed at all. For it is your mind that believes in it and gives existence to it. Yet it is also your mind that has the power to deny the ego’s existence, and you will surely do so when you realize exactly what the journey is on which the ego sets you.

It is surely obvious that no one wants to find what would utterly defeat him. Being unable to love, the ego would be totally inadequate in love’s presence, for it could not respond at all. Then, you would have to abandon the ego’s guidance, for it would be quite apparent that it had not taught you the response you need. The ego will therefore distort love and teach you that love really calls forth the responses the ego can teach. Follow it’s teaching, then, you will search for love but will not recognize it.”

A Course in Miracles (Page 223-224)

I’ve seen this happening over and over in my life. I’ve worked a lot on myself and even though I’m far from being egoless I was able to shrink my illusionary self quite a bit. I am much less afraid of love then I used to be.

But seeing people who have the potential of having love in their lives running, hiding or not recognizing it makes me very sad and there is nothing I can do then to watch in disbelief.



“Ready For Love” Williamsburg/Brooklyn/Dried Out Rose 06-05-09 at 04:46 PM


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